Imagine more health, fun & love in your relationship.
Work through tough times to create a relationship you love.
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Couples Therapy
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Couples Intensives
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Individual Therapy
Feel stuck in a relationship that isn’t working?
Feel exhausted arguing too much—including the small stuff? Worried about a blowup happening at any moment? Sick to your stomach with so much tension & anxiety? Acting in ways you aren’t proud of—but can’t help yourself? Or, no more sex, no more sharing—no more love?
Breathe—that's why I'm here.
Why not make it great?
You’re already invested. Already have history. And already miserable? Let’s fix that—with lots of better & plenty of more…
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Better communication
Talk openly without you or your partner getting defensive
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Better skills
More hope knowing what to do & how to talk when things get dicey
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More confidence
Feel at peace with your choice—whether to stay or leave
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More trust
Learn to manage your partner & yourself—during worst-of-times
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More intimacy
Have fun, loving, frequent, playful, steamy, connected, great sex
Listen better • Argue less • Love more • Increase fun • Handle tough times • Be a solid team together
5 mistakes people make when starting couples therapy (and what to do instead)
Couples therapy is a big investment of both time and money. Avoid common mistakes and set yourself up for success with our free email guide in your inbox.
Suffering from trauma, anxiety or depression?
Do you have negative thoughts swirling around? Worried or hopeless about your future? Is substance abuse a problem? I can help. See my Individual Therapy service—whether for yourself or someone you love.
Learn to spot things quickly—to fix things quickly.
Not everything that is hard—has to be complex. Learn how to keep drama small, not big.
STEP 1
Schedule a free call
Meet to learn more ∙ Learn your situation ∙ Determine if we’re a match
STEP 2
Work together
Assess your relationship ∙ Create a relationship plan ∙ Meet to do the exercises together
STEP 3
Get back to love
Call on new skills ∙ Keep small things from becoming big ones ∙ Feel like you got this—together
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If you don't make an assertive decision the universe will make it for you.
And it won't be the one you want.
There's no shame in getting help.
Keep love in—not out of the relationship.
20+ years helping couples—I can help you
100s of grateful customers
Every situation is unique—yet I’ve seen em all
Right balance of straight talk, humor & experience
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Work together? Or not?
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The 5 mistakes people make when doing couples therapy
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Why gamble with your relationship?
“I’m tired of being in an unhealthy relationship. Exhausted by the bad vibes. And sad it’s gotten this bad over the years. I want this to work. I want to live & love my partner all over again. And be a great role model for our kids.”
Well said you. That’s what we’ll make happen working together.